Let’s face it: for most guys out there, women’s feelings aren’t always quite easy to read and predict, even if they see these women on a daily basis.
Even if they’re already in long term relationships.
Some men get easily caught up in mixed signals and read way too much into women’s actions or emotions to the point where they completely misjudge their positions in potential or ongoing connections.
So if you’re one of these guys — if you’re wondering where you currently stand with a specific girl you’ve probably invested time and effort in or if you’re even thinking about what you should expect from the girl you’re dating, then here are the main and significant signs she actually loves you:
1. She Values Your Opinion the Most
A girl who is madly in love with you will value your opinion and take it very seriously.
She’ll be extremely sensitive to your criticism and highly appreciative of your compliments.
You say you like it when she’s dressed in red, and you’ll suddenly find her “subtly” wearing more red dresses.
You mention that you don’t like it when people are late right on their dates, and she’ll always make sure she’s respectful of your time.
It’s also an obvious sign that she loves you when she always asks for your advice and actually follows with it.
She’ll also make sure she does more of what you like even when she says things such as, “Oh, I’m doing this for myself,” just to avoid looking too easy.
So whenever you have her asking for your opinion, reward that behavior to keep her wanting to invest even more into you and your relationship.
2. She Initiates Flirting, & Intimacy
At the beginning of most relationships, men usually do most of the work to win over the women they like.
Men are the ones who typically initiate contact and lead the dating process long enough for the women to get attracted to the men and become willing to stay.
But at one point, when you’ve successfully locked a woman’s heart and mind in, things start to change, if you know what you’re doing.
The tables eventually turn when she falls for you.
She starts calling more, smiling more, touching you more, finding more reasons to talk to, gets more active on your social media, and openly flirting with you, without you having to do too much about it.
When a woman starts contributing a lot more than you, you’ll know for a fact that this is a sign that she loves you to the point where she doesn’t really care that she’s putting more into the relationship.
In fact, she’ll probably even like that, knowing that this dynamic is very uncommon considering all the dull Nice Guys out there who are too scared to give the women enough space to invest and chase more.
3. She Maintains a Pleasant Feminine Attitude
The typical and healthy man-to-woman dynamic usually takes place when a masculine man is maintaining his Frame and leadership for a feminine woman who supports and complements him.
The more congruently masculine a man is, the more his girl will be attracted to him. The more feminine a woman is towards her man, the more attraction the man will have for her.
So when notice that the woman you’re dealing with is carrying a more submissive and feminine attitude towards you, it could be a sign that she loves you.
A woman’s femininity takes over when she respects and appreciates your presence enough that she wants to please you. She’ll be extra nice to you compared to how she is towards other men.
But this will only happen if you keep and encourage her to be in her feminine state of mind, you cannot just expect this dynamic to happen by just wishing for it.
For the ideal man-to-woman dynamic to happen to you, you need to keep your sh*t together, consistently.
Because lot of men get softer when they’re dealing with femininity–they get complacent with their boundaries by becoming a little too pleasing and easygoing.
They don’t get that, with good intentions, slowly letting go of their masculine Frame, in favor of comfort, weakens the attraction that got the women interested in the first place.
Maintain your masculine Frame at all times. The Game of maintaining desire is never over until it’s over.
4. She Is Willing to Stick Through Thick & Thin
In an age where you’re always one swipe or message away from meeting someone new, it’s getting harder to find reasons to stay loyal in relationships.
Especially for women.
Women are always getting hit on, getting attention left and right, and having more access to higher-value men all over the world.
So when you notice that there’s this woman who’s not just there with you to be comfortable and happy all the time, that’s when you know you have a real one.
Loyal women who stick by their partners through thick and thin are rare in our current times, and this dedication displayed by a woman is a good sign that she loves you to the point where she would rather endure hardship with you than just take the easy way out and find someone else.
Always reward her dedication and loyalty to give her a reason to continue staying that way. If you manage to do that, she’ll see these hard times as opportunities to win you over even more–to create a stronger connection with you by investing in it further.
5. The Intimacy Is Great
This should be painfully obvious, if the intimacy is great between you two, then it’s a sign she loves you.
The reason this has to be mentioned is, when in bad or dead long-term relationships, men often get confused by their partners’ words and familiarity instead of being aware of how things really are.
Those confused men think that not having any strong attraction in their relationship could just be one of those stale and temporary moments that “just happen in typical long-term connections” — that it’s normal and will eventually just change.
But a woman who doesn’t have this authentic desire for you isn’t really in love with you, even if she says she does love you and even if you have been together for so long.
Never confuse love and desire with familiarity and comfort. Never confuse the evidence with what she says and what you hope to be true.
Her actions are the only indications that you need to follow to understand how well you’re actually doing.
You see, the number one reason why women cheat on their partners is because they are not physically and emotionally satisfied with their long term boyfriends and husbands, and this usually comes as a surprise for the loving dedicating family men.
“But she says she loves me.” — Most men who get cheated on.
“But I thought her not engaging physically with me was just a temporary thing.” — Most men who get cheated on.
“But we had a family together” — Most men who get cheated on.
Intimacy is a great way to gauge how the relationship is going. The set of actions that come with being attracted and wanting to sleep with you shows you how dedicated she really is.
If she keeps distancing herself away from you or consistently gives you excuses to not deal with you on an intimate, then unless there are urgent or serious matters at hand, she doesn’t really have the right passion for you to be happy.
And your time, unfortunately, is running out.
This stale relationship may or may not be your fault, but ultimately, intimacy is the strong foundation of any romantic relationship, and if you haven’t had it for a long time, then it’s time to take a good look at why you and your partner aren’t being the sexual partners you would like to be.
6. She Wants to Look Good for You
Her emotional investment is directly proportional to the effort she puts in to have and keep you.
If she takes the time to dress up and look her best, then your opinion of her is important and worth working for.
Not all women would be willing to admit that, but it’s in their nature to want to look good for men. Girls instinctively know their appearance plays a huge role in winning high-value men over and keeping them from desiring other women.
So when she keeps choosing to wear that dress she knows you like or stays in shape and ask you about her progress, no matter how long you’ve been together, consider it a sign she loves you and your attention.
7. She Mimics You & Follows Your Lead
When a woman truly loves and respects you consistently, she will look up to you as her leader in the relationship.
Once you become the man in her eyes, everything you say or do, within reason, will make sense to her.
Your hobbies, behavior, and even how you talk will be followed and appreciated, to the point where she starts copying you the same way a child copies his parents.
The mimicking may not be intentional, but this how we behave when we’re with someone we look up to, admire, and respect, copying them satisfies us and seeking their approval becomes a purpose.
So when you have a woman who learns from you the way a little girl learns from her dad, that’s a sign she loves and respects you enough to be comfortable in your lead.
And when you have a woman who constantly tries to boss you around and tell you what to do with the intention of having you mimicking her instead, then that means you’re not getting the respect you should be getting from her; that’s why she’s taking control over you and the relationship.
8. She Gets Jealous, Sometimes
Her jealousy is a sign that she loves you.
When she’s emotionally invested in you and the relationship, she will get a little extra protective of her investment.
She’ll always ask you where you’ve been, who is this girl you’re talking to, and why you keep looking at other women’s butts.
You have to know that some of these questions will be shit tests and some just stem out of insecurity and her fear of being replaced and losing you.
Even though jealousy is a good indication that she’s in love with you, you must never get too caught up in her emotions that it stops you from maintaining a life outside of your relationship–something too many men fail at when succumbing to their women’s jealousy so they can “keep her happy”.
Accept that her jealousy is a normal emotion to deal with, but never take it too seriously. Otherwise, these cute jealous actions will quickly turn into passive-aggressive behavior that will eventually transform into controlling and bossy orders.
9. She Prioritizes Your Needs
If she loves you, she’ll definitely want to keep you. And if she wants to keep you, she’ll find reasons to keep you happy.
Your preferences will be her priorities and your satisfaction will be her goal.
A woman who doesn’t care about pleasing you at all is an emotionally checked out woman.
What a lot of men and women don’t understand about healthy and sustainable relationships is that a happily committed woman is only happy when she has a man to look up to and be proud of being with.
When such a man doesn’t exist in a woman’s life, she will never be fully satisfied with her relationship; there won’t be anything exciting to look forward to and work for.
This is when all of a sudden she starts going on girls night out and having all of these male friends who are “just like brothers” to compensate for the lack of intensity in her relationship.
Whether they like to admit it or not, women crave continuously having to win over a high-value man with high standards — they like the thrill of not really knowing what the future holds with a particular guy. There’s mystery and excitement within a meaningful chase. There’s a reward for dedicating time and effort into keeping a human trophy other women would like to have and other men would like to be.
Once a girl is done with pleasing her man, once she figures him out or has him wrapped around her finger, this thrill and excitement will be gone. She will have no respect for a guy who is easily pleased with whatever little attention she has to offer.
So if you see that your girl is passionate enough to look for ways to make you happy, then it’s a good sign that she loves you.
10. She’s Your Biggest Supporter
Your success is her success.
Every positive thing you do will be recognized and celebrated, to the point where you will sometimes wonder why she’s being that supportive and excited about even the little steps you make.
Whenever you’re having one of those days when you’re just down, frustrated, or not too happy with your work, she’ll notice and see your situation as an opportunity to try to cheer you up and make you happy.
Maybe she’ll make or get you that dessert you love, other times she’ll act silly to make you laugh, and sometimes she’ll just sit next to you and show you some love.
She’ll somehow try to prove to you that she is your biggest fan.
And whenever you’re having a good day and have made some progress with whatever it is you do, she’ll want to make sure you know she cares about it just as much as you do, if not more.
11. She Always Wants to Spend More Time with You
A girl who is in love with you will always look for ways to spend time with you. As you become the center of her world, she’ll keep finding excuses to occupy your time for as long as she can and as many times as possible.
This process starts with little things such as texting you frequently to more significant events like spending vacations together abroad.
You don’t have to always obey her requests to see you. In fact, you shouldn’t always be available to her. It’s best you have other productive things to do and naturally have her competing for your time as much as possible.
Because when you have her constantly working for your time, it makes your dates with her more enjoyable and worthwhile. To her, your presence becomes scarce, appreciated, and therefore, respected.
When you have the right balance of showing her a good time while not being physically with her all the time, she’ll want to spend more time with you.
And when you’re not there, she’ll keep thinking about you and when she’s going to see you next.
A lot of men don’t have partners who want to spend time with them because of these men’s lack of “mystery” — they’re always already with their partners 24/7 because “she said so”, so there is nothing for the girls to ever wonder and think about when it comes to their relationship. Everything’s predictable, redundant, and flat.
The only way to stimulate a woman’s mind and boost her attraction for you on the long run is having her always wanting your time and not being sure if she’s going to get it, and then having a short and fun experience once in your presence.
Never let her take your time for granted. Make your presence a reward by treating it as such.
12. She Shows You Off to Her Friends
You can always tell how much she loves you by the walk she talks to her friends about you.
In her safe closed space with her friends, she speaks freely and honestly.
And when a woman is in love with you, she will show you off the way a man shows off his new karate black belt.
Because, to her, you are the prize.
She’ll share everything; what you do, how successful you are, how good you are in bed, etc.
But obviously, you won’t be there to listen to any of this, so how does this help?
Well, it only becomes a matter of time before you do meet her friends, and then you will just know.
Her friends will be very curious to see what kind of man you are. One of them might tell you what your girl really thinks of you. Another might even see you as a catch and flirt with you.
You will just know by the intensity of her friends’ curiosity.
13. She Gets Excited On Special Occasions
Some people just give you gifts because they are in a position where they have to. They do it because you are their “loved one” and all that, but also, how would they look like if they didn’t get you something on your special day?
It’s almost like a yearly chore for these people. Anyone can just give you a gift or book you a table to get your birthday over with.
But when it comes to someone who loves you, it’s different and you’ll absolutely feel it.
A special woman will take the time to plan for your special occasions or think of personal gifts you’d appreciate and relate to.
She’ll even get nervous, indecisive, and a little panicky about the planning. She’ll want to make sure everything is perfect, including the little details nobody usually thinks about.
How much effort she puts into celebrating your achievements, birthdays, and anniversaries is a good sign for how much she loves you.
If she doesn’t put a lot of thinking into making you happy, then you know where you really stand, no matter what bullsh*t excuse she comes up with, and that’s if she bothers doing that too.
14. She Recalls Your Conversations & Little Details
A good sign that she loves you is when she pays attention to things that have to do with you.
The way you think.
The way you talk.
How you walk.
What do you like to add to your pizza and how you like your coffee in the morning.
Everything that has to do with you is under her microscope when you’re a big deal to her.
Sometimes she’ll intentionally pay attention to your details because she wants to know what you like and don’t like, so she can position herself in a way that complements your life a little more. Other times she will pay attention unintentionally because of how that’s just how intensely she feels for you.
In either cases, you must be displaying the right attractive mindset and behavior for her to have the capacity care about you and everything about you.
15. She Discusses Family & Kids with You
Women are hardwired to start and keep families, and if she loves you, she’ll obviously want to have you as the father of her future kids.
That perception of you won’t happen overnight, of course, but when she starts asking you family-related questions such as:
– “How many kids would you like to have? Do you prefer having a boy or a girl?”
– “What names would you give to your kids?”
– “What are you like/want to be as a dad?”
– “What are the things you’d like to teach and show your kids?”
Then you know she has at least thought about you in a parental role for her own family, and the more family-related questions she asks you, the more you’ll see her curiosity and inclination towards starting a family with you.
Whether you choose to have a family with her or not is up to you, but understand that these questions that may seem just friendly at first will aim to shape your roles in the future and set expectations for the kind of committed relationship you’ll later have.
16. She Really Cares About What People Think of You
As emotional beings, women are more inclined to consider what other people think compared to men. Perceived value, opinions, and gossips are usually paid more attention in female conversations than in men’s.
This, to a degree, means that what people think of you is going to matter a lot to her, even if she says she doesn’t really care what others think. She will take the circulating gossips, rumors, praise, and criticism of you personally.
If she doesn’t think of you too highly and others confirm the doubts she has about you, these opinions will slowly shape her reality and become facts. It should be no surprise to you that if a girl friend’s don’t like you, she won’t be able to be with you.
But another sign that a girl loves you is if she already has so much faith in and respect for you that she wants to defend your reputation at all costs.
If someone criticizes you, she’ll consider this an insult to her.
If someone downplays your achievements or roles, she’ll, at least, not want to deal with them any longer.
She’ll take things personally because you are the world to her, and she’ll want the world to see you the way she does.
17. She Is Completely Vulnerable to You
A good and clear sign that she loves you is if she completely opens up to you and shares everything she goes through.
But that only applies if she’s also attracted to you.
Women love to talk and explore their thoughts or emotions, and they will only do so if they’re dealing with someone who they feel connected to on a mental level.
And they will only connect to you with this kind of intensity if they have the right degree of comfort that comes with being emotionally invested in you.
When you deal with a girl who shares every little and significant detail of her day — who she talks to, what she does, how she feels, the memes she sees, etc..
Then you know you’re slowly becoming the center of her universe.
However, this sort of comfort shouldn’t be your priority if you’re interested in a girl.
A lot of men make the mistake of making the women open up and become too comfortable in their interactions that they see the men as friends who are nice to talk to.
You don’t to be the Nice Guy who makes girls so comfortable that they want you to be their teddy bear. Instead, you want to maintain the right balance of comfort and tension to have her wanting to connect to you while physically desiring you.
And the only way for you to do this is to keep her wanting your valuable presence by you treating it as such.
Her Actions Are Louder Than Words
If there’s one thing all these signs have in common, it’s that they are all actions to be performed with one purpose in mind: to make you happy and appreciated.
The reason why men get confused about where they stand in relationships is that they listen to what the girls say instead of paying attention to what they do.
They hope the girls would follow through with their actions but end up getting surprised, disappointed, and put aside for failing to just ignore the noise of easy and unfulfilling words, and instead, focus on what the women are actually doing consistently to show their love and appreciation.